Husband Battery - Battered Men - Abused Husbands

• The following is a list of common things a batterer can do to their victim. An easy way to assess the danger in your relationship is to go through the following list, answering each question with a yes or no.
• Has your abuser done any of the following:
  Punched you
  Slapped you
  Kicked you
  Bitten you
  Pulled your hair
• If you are married, did any of these things happen before you were married?
• Does your abuser use alcohol or drugs excessively?
• Does your abuser have intense mood swings?
• Does your abuser stalk you?
• Follow you?
• Try to isolate you from others?
• Try to dominate you?
• Show up at your work unexpected?
• Threatens suicide?
• Obsessed with weapons?
• Threatened you with a weapon?
• Threatened you by phone or mail?
• Threatened to kill you, or someone you love?
• Sexually assaulted you?
• Kidnapped you or held you hostage?
• Previous violent relationships?
• Criminal record?
• Criminal record related to violence, or sexual offenses?
• Had a restraining order filed against him/her?
• Violated the restraining order?
• Intimidate or threaten you in order to control you?
• Accuse you of being unfaithful?
• Broken into your home?
• Cut phone/power lines connected to your home?
• Does your abuser have a difficult time when you are not with him/her?
• Have frequent outbursts?
• Tries to excuse the beatings?
• Have the police ever been contacted?

Create an Emergency Escape Plan

• Create a list of important phone numbers (e.g. police, shelter) for yourself and your children, and always have change for a phone call 24-hours/7 days a week
• Create a list of safe places you can go (e.g. family, friend, shelter)
• Tell your neighbours (if it's safe) you would like them to call police if they hear fighting or screaming/possibly children will go there.
• Hide clothing, house keys, car keys, money, important documents (or copies), favourite toys, etc. at a friend or family member's home
• Keep all of your identification in your wallet (or other safe place)
• Open your own bank account (at a bank different from your partner) and arrange that calls and bank statements go to a friend or family member
• Save and set aside as much money as you can (e.g. from grocery budget)
• Have $10 to $15 available for cab fare or an emergency
• Be aware of any weapons in the home (including kitchen knives)
• Tell people you trust about the abuse
• more safety steps